An arch is two weaknesses which together make a strength, Leonardo suggested when talking about buildings, but I think we can apply it to an idea of friendship. When you look at an arch – the forces that compress need to hold together in a state of equilibrium. Great and sustainable friendships are like the arch. You will probably find that when one puts more weight in than the other does, that either one or the other or both, will collapse.
Sure, it is an ideal but we need not have to relinquish parts of ourselves to be in relationship with another, and we need not have to give more than the other is prepared to give. Equal weight, balance, and negotiating the spaces between until that is achieved. That in between space where the two weaknesses come together, where the compressive forces meet, the ‘third space’ (what theorists nominate as intersubjectivity), is actually a place where we find nurture and where we can birth and nurture something ‘other’ - be it our 'self' or a work of art. Often it is the place where love grows. I tried to capture this experience in a simple drawing some time ago – visually it captures an impression of what I mean.
I bring up the idea of friendship or relationship as an arch, as a justification for my penchant for working collaboratively. In collaboration, I either find or remember an aspect of myself or find a possibility for re-invention. This is the way I have experienced that most primal of relationships - with my mother, who is my best friend. She has always been a fabulous storyteller and our engagement through conversations now that her best friends have passed, have allowed her to continue with her story telling. I've even been compelled to write down these stories before they pass with her. In between, in the ‘third space’ is the expressive woman, which we both share.
What came to be called the ‘Friendship Scarf’ happened accidentally. Fabienne Dorsman- Rey had sent me a few eco-dyed samples after I’d packed her an envelop full of eucalyptus leaves found in
close to where I
live - what you can call my ‘backyard’.
The bits from Fabienne weren’t enough to make a piece but I was so
touched by their unique beauty that I wanted to make use of these ‘samples’. So I started to sew them together along with
other bits and pieces that I had – sari remnants from Glitz and Pieces on Etsy, other silk and cotton scraps until I
had enough ‘carrier fabric’ for a nuno felt scarf. I wanted to work in a way that left the
beauty of the eco-dyed fabrics and sari remnants exposed as much as possible. While I was ‘playing’ with this scarf, touched
by the friendships that have bestowed all bits upon me, I was also making a few
scarfs to enter in the annual Melbourne Scarf Festival. I had never intended that the mosaic scarf would
be entered in the event. When Philip
looked at the ‘results’ he thought the mosaic scarf was the best of the lot and
that it needed to be part of my contribution to the festival. Sherbrooke
‘But I don’t want to part with it,’ I told him. If I did part with it, it would go to Fabienne. Then I thought if I priced it highly enough no one would buy it – even though priced, as it was, it was still a bargain given the hours of labour in the scarf and its psychological significance. The theme of the festival was ‘the rhythm of my day’, and serendipitously it fitted easily with Facebook being a part of my day, and where I’d encountered my friends and been enriched both creatively, and personally.
|The Friendship Scarf I|
|Detail of the back showing a piece dyed by Fabienne, and a sari remnant bought from Glitz & Pieces|
|You can see various bits were sewn together|
|The wrong side of the fabric|
I wrote as my caption for the exhibition: 'The rhythm of my day – FaceBook and friendships forged with artists on-line. An eco dyer in
Amsterdam; a seller of
sari remnants based in ;
whose auras are present in this scarf. I
have collected leaves from Sherbrooke forest and sent them overseas, then
received the ‘fruits’ in pieces of dyed fabric and I’ve been shown how to
create my own eco dyed bundles. Conversations,
learnings, laughs, amity.' India
I considered the scarf as a co-creation, in which not only bits and pieces from others came together to make one work, but as well, those bits enabled me to approach felting in a different way to what I would have normally. For me it inspired love - love of the materials, the process, and the people involved.
The scarf was subsequently bought by a woman who fell in love with it.
The full quote from Leonardo's Notebooks is 'The arch is nothing else than a force originated by two weaknesses, for the arch in buildings is composed of two segments of a circle, each of which being very weak in itself tends to fall; but as each opposes this tendency in the other, the two weaknesses combine to form one strength.' http://www.fromoldbooks.org/Richter-NotebooksOfLeonardo/section-13/item-779.html